Anguish circulated me. But to my surprise, I was actually really happy that it is over, felt the burden is totally dispersed. But the same time my name is tarnished for no apparent reason, what did i do? I'm pretty sure that whatever move i make is never meant to hurt anyone. sometimes i do think, isit me being so naive all the time could be the best advantage for someone else? I'm sure thats the main reason. the other is that, I put both foot in right away, which is a super wrong move. I should have just put one foot in first to test, learn, then take the next maneuver.
I'm not only gonna talk about myself, but this very post is dedicated to all who had or going through the same situation of being a scapegoat, and got used all the time for being nice. This topic goes well within relationships. doesn't matter for couples, friends or family.
Three words "DARE TO FAIL". To have loved and failed is better than never to have loved at all.
point to be noted :-
A Man and woman are two separate and different human beings! If we expect our spouse or girlfriend/boyfriend to think and feel like us, to be the same as us, from day one we would be heading for the "rocks" in our relationship.
Be strong and positive even u were to let down and mocked every time! If you are not, it will be the most stupidest step you will ever make, regrets will come dwelling all over you, it will eat you alive and foremost the feeling and deleterious thoughts in you of the other party is having a blast leaving you in total misery. AND YOU DONT WANT THAT TO HAPPEN DONT YA?!
There is so much to learn from a failed love affair then from a successful one! Just as you can learn so much from a fail venture, you too can learn a lot from a failed relationship. One day you may look back and thank God for those failed relationships. And you will realise that good times, bad times and all times pass over.
Always remember,
"Lovers have loved and will love again" - the choice is yours.
"To be upset over what you don't have is to waste what you do have" - Ken Keyes Jr.
"Do not take life's experience too seriously. Above all, do not let them hurt you for in reality they are nothing worthy but dream experiences. If circumstances are bad and you have to bear them, do not make them part of you. Play your part in life, But never forget that is only a role" - Paramahan Yogananda
Many people rush into relationships for various reasons. One reason is that they feel lonely and therefore need a partner, In fact I was one of them. But remember that loneliness can still occur even when you have a partner. There are many people who have many friends and yet they feel lonely inside. Everything comes within you. Well, if you are meant to be by yourself without a partner, It is absolutely all right. Do not force or to be forced to be in a relationship unless you find a real good reason.
One of the laws that affects one's happiness is the "Social and Moral" laws. The main culprite which affects a lot of people's happiness. Its interesting to note that this culprit is not even written at all. It's just and "unspoken law" or perception set by a particular society or community in which one live in. A good example would be marriage. Who says one must be married? who says a woman must have a baby? who says a woman must be married by such and such age? who says a man must go out and work? is there anything wrong being a house husband?
The list can go on and on. countless of social and moral laws are unwritten but they are the causes of a lot of unhappiness in many people's life. As far as I am concerned, to HELL with them! I am here to live my own life. It's our lives not theirs! And if you analyse them carefully, most of these social and moral laws don't have much fundamental basis at all! So why let them affect your happiness? life already has enough of its problems.
I hope this few tips could help a lot of people out there, who may facing the same problem that i did. A good example from the book "Dare to Fail" by Billi Lim, chapter 8. these few tips from there that got me in deep realization about relationship.
" Go fishing sometimes, if you don't get the right fish, try again, and again and again until you find the Golden fish. You rather fail a few times to get just the right one. Remember is all up to you to choose the best for you." - Jas Gill
JtV
